Moving from the Judger to the Learner Mindset
Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 7 Powerful Tools for Life and Work
by Marilee Adams, Ph.D.
What is the learner/judger mindset?
|Judgmental of self and/of others||Accepting of self and others|
|Reactive and automatic||Responsive and thoughtful|
|Inflexible and rigid||Flexible and adaptive|
|Either/or thinking||Both/and thinking|
|Afraid of difference||Values difference|
|Defends assumptions||Questions assumptions|
|Possibilities seem as limited||Possibilities seen as unlimited|
|Primary mode: protective||Primary mode: curious|
|We all have both mindsets, and we have the power to choose how we operate in any moment.|
How do judger/learner relationships differ?
|Wins-lose relationships||Win-win relationships|
|Feels separate from others||Feels connected with others|
|Fears differences||Values differences|
|Listens for:||Listens for:|
|Feedback perceived as rejection||Feedback perceived as worthwhile|
|Seeks to attack or defend||Seeks to resolve and create|
We all relate from both mindsets; and we have the power to choose how we relate in any moment.